Ashley’s message: I have a life, I have responsibilities, I have challenges. But at the end of the day, I just learn how to channel-in those concerns with a lot of extra help and support. I may see a psychiatrist monthly, I may take medication every day, but I’m not that far away from that individual. At all. Ashley Smith, who is originally from California, spent her childhood with her very close-knit family. Her mother was very supportive and involved with Ashley’s life, as was her stepfather. Growing up, Ashley was very outgoing and participated in many sports, such as track and cross country. She describes herself as an academic “go-getter,” and she was a youth church leader at her local church. This active involvement in the community gave Ashley a sense of self-validation and confidence. Upon entering college where she studied business and marketing, she made the dean’s list and had high hopes of continuing her education into a master’s and even a doctorate degree. Ashley was also an active student mentor and a youth assistant coach. While maintaining her high GPA and other activities, Ashley ran on the cross-country team for all three years of her college experience. In March of 2007, Ashley experienced a very “dark moment” during her junior year of college where she had lost all her motivation and passion for school and other activities and felt as though she was unable to cope with these feelings. She was very surprised by these emotions and felt as if this loss of motivation was consuming her; she had tried multiple resources, such as study groups, to regain her focus and her drive, but nothing had worked. Ashley watched her grades slip away from her with no ability to correct them. During this time, she reached out to her family for support, and her family suggested that she take some time off from school, supporting her endlessly through this decision. Ashley recalls visiting campus for the last time to say goodbye to her professors and feeling like a “complete failure,” saying she felt ashamed and guilty for withdrawing from her classes. At that time in Ashley’s life, she recalls having little to no understanding of mental illness. She says that she felt like a cloud was hovering over her. Ashley:I surprised myself that I couldn’t manage, that I couldn’t stay focused. I tried study groups, I tried sleeping, I tried this and that. And I couldn’t help but my grades were slipping. I did not understand what mental illness was or that it applied to me, that I was at risk, and its symptoms. So when I left my school campus, I couldn’t hold back the tears and it was a really dark day for me. It felt like a cloud was hovering over me and it was just all negative energy. It was just so fast and difficult to feel like I can’t complete what I started, which was so new to me. After withdrawing from college, Ashley relocated from Atlanta back to California to start over and regroup with her family. She began a new job working under her aunt and eventually found herself paying her own bills, working on her wellbeing, and even becoming highly involved in her local church. Despite all the positives in her life, Ashley recalls feeling like she could not trust anyone, including the people she typically would trust. One Sunday morning in June, Ashley recalls waking up and watching a church special on tv. During an advertisement commercial for selling DVDs, she noticed that the bottom of the screen read, “how to commit suicide.” Ashley interpreted this as the devil trying to tempt her. She fought this feeling, telling herself repeatedly, “I am not suicidal. I do not want to die, and I don’t want to take any risks.” Ashley continued to her church service that morning as usual. At the time, she did not understand what hallucinations were, nor did she understand the way they were affecting her life. Upon leaving church that day, Ashley rode public transportation and recalls being terrified of everyone, even though she knew in her heart that they were harmless. She states that she kept thinking, “They’re trying to kill me. Everyone is against me.” Looking back, Ashley remembers thinking extreme religious thoughts, and began having vivid hallucinations, thinking that she could look at a person and tell if they were “angelic or demonic.” She states that she remembers seeing that most everyone was demonic, even hallucinating that their eyes were solid black, and that she felt very afraid and disoriented. Ashley also recalls feeling extremely paranoid, like everyone was talking about her and that there were cameras everywhere, just watching her. After this experience, Ashley reached out to her family back in Atlanta and told them she wanted to come back home. Ultimately, she tried to get a flight back home to Atlanta. She recalls finding herself in the parking lot of the airport after being unsuccessful in her attempt at booking a flight. Ashley remembers being very afraid and praying to God in the parking lot to protect her and to get her back home to Atlanta safely. She recalls seeing a large pick-up truck in the parking lot; it had large light strips on top, the driver side door was open, and the keys were in the ignition. Ashley recalls thinking to herself, “That’s my God…giving me a miracle.” She saw this abandoned truck as a gift from God that would allow her to drive across the country back home to Atlanta. She didn’t know where to go, but she felt comforted and hopeful in her faith in this moment. While she was driving, Ashley recalls seeing police cars behind her. Upon realizing the police were after her, she remembers panicking and driving over the median into oncoming traffic. She had hit two cars and crashed head on into a building. Ashley suddenly found herself surrounded by several officers with Read more
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Victoria Marie Alonso
"I’m not looking for a Nobel Peace Prize or great sainthood. I’m just living a ....
"I’m not looking for a Nobel Peace Prize or great sainthood. I’m just living a life that is remarkable because it’s unremarkable and just trying to do little things to help others—sometimes big things—and that’s how I try to live my life." Read more
"That I’m not mad at men anymore. And I was. Because even in this relationship, I wanted someone, even my worst enemy, to come and say regardless of what their image was, “I’m just like you.” … and I am not a monster because I defended my life against someone trying to kill me, and I’m not a monster because I suffered because of it." Read more
"I’m just like, a normal guy trying to get through my day to day, just like you are. I have the same fears and unanswered questions in life that you have, and I’m just trying to survive like everybody else. There’s nothing different about me. I’m not a killer. I’m not like a multiple—I’m not like—I’m not harmful to society. I’m just an everyday person trying to live my life like you are." Read more
"I would like people to know that when they first see me, I wish they would understand that I’ve been through a lot more than I look like I have, and that I have a lot more experience than I appear to, with a lot of different elements. And I’d like people to do that with everybody, really. To look beyond the surface and try to understand that everyone is going through something and just because they’re not acting in such a way that you think they should, doesn’t mean they’re wrong." Read more
"So I’d just like to say if anyone’s listening, or listens to this, that it can always get better. There’s always hope. It makes me cry to think about it. There is always tomorrow and tomorrow can always be better than today. So, just try to get the help that you need and take your meds. Do what your doctor says. Try to get—ask for help. Get the help. Don’t give up. There’s just always hope. There’s always hope for a better tomorrow." Read more
Andrew K.
"Sometimes your values, they change in order to adjust to the situation…You should do what’s ....
"Sometimes your values, they change in order to adjust to the situation…You should do what’s best for you. And not always living up to what is expected of you doesn’t mean that you’re less of a human or less valued in the world." Read more
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"You can do anything you put your mind to it. Don’t let drugs, alcohol, mental illness or anything hold you back and tell you you cannot, because you can. And if you need help, reach out for it." Read more
"If there isn’t a God, just live like there is one. Just have respect for these silly little thoughts that go through your head about life and stuff. Maybe it’s not just something that you think of by yourself. Other people think of them, too." Read more
"There is life after mental illness. I know people who have succeeded in their chosen field despite being ill, and I know people who were unable to, but I think always there’s a way to pick up your life and move on as a competent member of society and not be thrown out into the shadows." Read more
"I’m a very caring person and I can humble myself to the degree where, you know, I can relate to other people and what they had gone through, what other people go through. Wanna lend a helping hand to people and talk to them and encourage them. That’s what I want to do." Read more
"I’m a very forgiving person. I like company, I’m a people person, and I just like helping people out. And I’m very responsible, and I got good attendance when I go to work. And I just want them to know I’m a hard worker. And I’m just dependable." Read more
"That I can be heard. That I can tell somebody the way I think. If it, if it gets on the records, I won’t go out of the world backwards. I want to make a mark, to leave my legacy that it had been written, so that somebody can hear it, and say that was a man, that Ronald English and that he tried to make amends to them all." Read more
"How I’ve come so long a way, so that I can deal with the problems that I have and mostly get rid of the problems without all these antics and problems and stuff coming up and things that I’ve grown out of it a lot, you know, the last several years." Read more
“I’m a good person, first of all. I’m not, I ain't no sex offender... I love America. I love our military. I love President Obama. He done the right thing, you know, protecting [our country]. My father did it too.” Read more
“I’m a good person… I really am a good person and I’m just a helpful person. I would love to help somebody… I have some ups and downs in my life, made some mistakes, and… I just wanna be back normal. I just wanna give back.” Read more
"I’m a good person. I have a good heart. I always consider someone else’s feelings, like before you do something or before you say something, I try not to say exactly what I’m thinking if we’re going through an argument or whatever. I try not to say that because sometimes that’s more hurtful than going through the argument itself. You say something that you don’t mean and people internalize that. I learned that. So, I try not to do that. I mean, I try to help you if I can help you. I just want people to know I’m a good person." Read more
“Stay away from drugs … no alcohol … the cigarettes. I’m a nice guy. Too nice at times. People take advantage of me. My friend...is trying to get me to quit being that way. But I just won’t change.” Read more
“I would like them to know that I’m a survivor, that I'm strong and that I’m competent at times, I might not be competent all the time, but I can be competent. That I can have a normal life. That I can be, what a person would consider a regular ‘ole day-to-day person. That I might have problems from time to time, but it doesn’t mean that I can’t be a good friend, a good wife and a good mother.” Read more
"What I would most want someone to know about me is: Even though I’m schizophrenic, I’m still a person with emotions and an intelligence; and I’m capable of doing anything that any other person is capable of doing. That’s what I would want other people to know." Read more
"I think there’s like a stigma. I would just tell people to have an open mind because you really don’t know who you’re dealing with... I don’t know if most people would consider me crazy, but…I just think I’m a normal person…with good goals... So, just have an open mind and be willing to accept some flaws in people and look for some good." Read more
Annette McFarland
"If you have a mental condition, get some help for it, take your medications, try ....
"If you have a mental condition, get some help for it, take your medications, try to get into some type of stress class or something, because you’ll end up like me. I’m surprised I’m alive today, I swear to God. I didn’t think I was going to make it to see fifty-years-old. Schizophrenic, bipolar is a serious condition. So it’s important to take your medication and get therapy and help for your condition." Read more
"What I would like people to know about me is that I’m exploring this concept of…the United States needs at least one person to look at a sheet of paper and say “I’m going to be brave on that sheet of paper.” Like, when it comes to - when it comes to bravery, we need to see who the bravest and most powerful people are. And the best way to do that isn’t through combat or athletics, it’s through who has the bravest, most powerful minds and explore that through writing, on the written page." Read more
"I am different, I am unique but … I want them to understand that I’m still a person, you know. Just because I talk a certain way or because I dress a certain way … I have something wrong with me, but it’s always nice to sit down and know the person and understand what they’re going through. Cause if you don’t, then you’ll never know, and then you’re (pause) uneducated …" Read more
"I’d like to let people know with this illness, don’t let it get you down. Take your medication. Stay away from drugs and alcohol. Do what you’re supposed to do, and if you have any problems with your medicine, or anything [such as] bad side effects, go to your psychiatrist. And if you feel at all like the medicine makes you feel suicidal, or if you’re gonna hurt somebody, you feel that way, turn yourself into the police right away and get to a psych-ward." Read more
“My message is ... I would like for people to know, mainly specially for young teenagers, young ladies, from the ages, maybe 9 and up, that I am a strong survivor. And I want them to know that I am a survivor of family incest. And here I’m at the age of 44 years old and actually you can say I was raped at age 2 months old. So, I am a strong survivor, and I’m here to let the ladies know that ... if I made it through, that you can make it through, too. And there is hope, and sometimes you feel like giving up, but there is a sun that’s gonna shine and not to never give up and to let somebody walk with you and to hold your hand and ... let you know that you can do it." Read more
"I tried. I gave it the old college try. I mean, some people may think I’m a shirker—you hear these talk show hosts: “do away with social security.” Well the people that suffer the most would be hurt the most by it. You don’t know how everyday I just sit and wished I could have gone into work today, earned a living, been independent, not been on the system And people look at you like you’re just a shirker: “you’re feigning and you’re crazy, because you want your benefits.” I tried, I gave it my effort, and it just didn’t work out for me. Who the hell wants to live on 1,000 dollars a month, Dr. Crane? I mean, you think that’s fun? It’s not fun, it’s very difficult, and these people think it’s the greatest, it’s the life of Riley — no it’s not." Read more